“Lose Some Weight, You Fat Slut”

I’ve wanted to post this for so long, but it’s took a long time for me to pluck up the courage to actually write this. I just kept pushing it back but I finally feel ready. During my school and college years I was very slim, but I thought I was bigger because people would call me fat. It wasn’t until my 2nd year at University that I’d look back at old photos and compare them to current ones – I’d started to have the realisation that I used to actually be slim, but at this point I was gaining weight, fast.

Before I explain what happened, I’d just like to say I am not writing this to get compliments and I’m also not saying people aren’t allowed their own opinions. Of course people are allowed to have opinions.

In October last year I’d started a new job in Sheffield. As I was walking out of work, there was a huge queue of cars all along the road as it was rush hour. I’d had a really good day at work and I was in a happy mood, but as I walked down the road a car pulled up slowly alongside me and someone shouted “Lose some weight, you fat slut!” from inside the car, whilst laughing hysterically. I pretended I didn’t hear anything and just carried on walking, until I sat on my bus home and burst into tears.

At this time I was approximately 2 months into my weight loss journey, as I’d got so unhappy with how I looked and felt about myself. I was working really hard on losing weight, slowly but surely. Most weeks I actually had a loss when I went to get weighed. My clothes had started to become quite baggy on me and my coat was also big on me after I lost my initial bit of weight.

Of course, I shouldn’t listen to what some random person who means absolutely nothing to me thinks but it hurt. It actually hurt a lot. What was I personally doing wrong? I was just minding my own business, walking home after a long day at work.

No one should be walking down the street, minding their own business, getting verbal abuse thrown at them. Why would anyone think it’s acceptable or funny to call some stranger fat and a slut? (or any kind of negative word to be honest).

Anyway, I’m now in a much happier place in regards to my body. No one is perfect – we do however all deserve to love ourselves and feel good about ourselves. People like this simply aren’t worth our time. I’ve not lost weight for anyone else but myself!

Even if I am fat, what does that have to do with anything? What gives you the right to body shame, bully and judge others? I guess those who go out of their way to put other people down are either unhappy with their own lives, or they are just filled with so much hatred they get a kick out of putting others down? I’m not really sure to be honest. I will never understand what causes some people to behave in such a cruel way.